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Assertive communication means:
- Standing up for yourself.
- Expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly and respectfully.
- Not being aggressive (like yelling or hitting) or passive (like staying silent or avoiding the issue).
✔ Assertive: Clear, respectful, calm, and honest.
✘ Not assertive: Aggressive (hurting others), passive (not speaking up), or passive-aggressive (sneaky behavior).
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Now, let’s go through each example one by one and decide whether it's assertive or not. We'll place a ✓ next to the ones that are assertive and explain why.
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1. Cody asks, “Wyatt, can you please stop throwing the ball at me?”
✔ ✓
👉 This is assertive because Cody is clearly expressing his feeling ("the ball is hitting me") in a polite and respectful way. He uses "please" and directly addresses the behavior without aggression.
2. Diane pushes Ryan because he called her a bad name.
✘
👉 This is aggressive, not assertive. She responds with physical violence instead of using words to express how she feels.
3. Cheyenne says, “No. I don’t like it when you do that. Please, stop.”
✔ ✓
👉 This is assertive. Cheyenne states her boundaries clearly and respectfully, using "I" statements and asking politely.
4. Chris calls Bo a “chicken brain” because he’s mad at him.
✘
👉 This is aggressive. Name-calling is disrespectful and hurtful. It doesn't express feelings calmly or constructively.
5. Ian is mad at Hector for making fun of him, but he doesn’t say anything to him.
✘
👉 This is passive. Ian suppresses his feelings and doesn’t communicate them. That’s not assertive — it’s avoidance.
6. Tom is angry at his brother, so he sneaks in his room and breaks his toy.
✘
👉 This is passive-aggressive or destructive. Tom isn’t talking about his feelings; he’s acting out in a harmful way. Not assertive.
7. Francis doesn’t let Vivian play his game because he’s mad at her.
✘
👉 This is passive-aggressive. Francis is punishing Vivian by withholding something (the game) instead of communicating his feelings. Not respectful or direct.
8. Carol says, “I need you to please stop calling me names behind my back.”
✔ ✓
👉 This is assertive! Carol clearly expresses her need and feeling in a respectful tone. She uses “I need” and “please,” which shows self-respect and respect for others.
9. Joann tells Brenda that she’s the “worst friend in the world!”
✘
👉 This is aggressive. It’s a harsh, judgmental statement that attacks Brenda’s character. It’s not respectful or constructive.
10. Paul pulls Eva to the side and asks her to be nicer to him.
✔ ✓
👉 This is assertive. Paul takes initiative to talk privately and asks for better treatment in a calm, respectful way.
11. Sally is mad at Asher, so she counts to 10 before expressing her feelings.
✔ ✓
👉 This shows emotional regulation and self-control. Counting helps her stay calm and speak assertively instead of reacting impulsively. The act of preparing to express herself respectfully makes this assertive.
12. Darnell says, “I’m tired of you picking on me. It hurts my feelings.”
✔ ✓
👉 This is assertive. Darnell uses an “I” statement to share his emotions clearly and honestly without attacking the other person.
13. Brett tells Josh, “I’m giving you 10 seconds to run before I hit you!”
✘
👉 This is aggressive. Threatening violence is not respectful or safe. Even if Brett is upset, threatening harm is not assertive.
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- ✓ Cody asks, “Wyatt, can you please stop throwing the ball at me?”
- Diane pushes Ryan because he called her a bad name.
- ✓ Cheyenne says, “No. I don’t like it when you do that. Please, stop.”
- Chris calls Bo a “chicken brain” because he’s mad at him.
- Ian is mad at Hector for making fun of him, but he doesn’t say anything to him.
- Tom is angry at his brother, so he sneaks in his room and breaks his toy.
- Francis doesn’t let Vivian play his game because he’s mad at her.
- ✓ Carol says, “I need you to please stop calling me names behind my back.”
- Joann tells Brenda that she’s the “worst friend in the world!”
- ✓ Paul pulls Eva to the side and asks her to be nicer to him.
- ✓ Sally is mad at Asher, so she counts to 10 before expressing her feelings.
- ✓ Darnell says, “I’m tired of you picking on me. It hurts my feelings.”
- Brett tells Josh, “I’m giving you 10 seconds to run before I hit you!”
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To be assertive:
- Use “I” statements (e.g., “I feel…”).
- Speak clearly and calmly.
- Respect others’ rights while standing up for yourself.
- Avoid yelling, hitting, or name-calling.
- Don’t stay silent when you’re hurt or upset.
This worksheet teaches kids to recognize healthy ways to communicate their feelings and set boundaries.
Let me know if you'd like a printable version or a classroom activity based on this!
🔍 What is Assertive Communication?
Assertive communication means:
- Standing up for yourself.
- Expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly and respectfully.
- Not being aggressive (like yelling or hitting) or passive (like staying silent or avoiding the issue).
✔ Assertive: Clear, respectful, calm, and honest.
✘ Not assertive: Aggressive (hurting others), passive (not speaking up), or passive-aggressive (sneaky behavior).
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Now, let’s go through each example one by one and decide whether it's assertive or not. We'll place a ✓ next to the ones that are assertive and explain why.
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1. Cody asks, “Wyatt, can you please stop throwing the ball at me?”
✔ ✓
👉 This is assertive because Cody is clearly expressing his feeling ("the ball is hitting me") in a polite and respectful way. He uses "please" and directly addresses the behavior without aggression.
2. Diane pushes Ryan because he called her a bad name.
✘
👉 This is aggressive, not assertive. She responds with physical violence instead of using words to express how she feels.
3. Cheyenne says, “No. I don’t like it when you do that. Please, stop.”
✔ ✓
👉 This is assertive. Cheyenne states her boundaries clearly and respectfully, using "I" statements and asking politely.
4. Chris calls Bo a “chicken brain” because he’s mad at him.
✘
👉 This is aggressive. Name-calling is disrespectful and hurtful. It doesn't express feelings calmly or constructively.
5. Ian is mad at Hector for making fun of him, but he doesn’t say anything to him.
✘
👉 This is passive. Ian suppresses his feelings and doesn’t communicate them. That’s not assertive — it’s avoidance.
6. Tom is angry at his brother, so he sneaks in his room and breaks his toy.
✘
👉 This is passive-aggressive or destructive. Tom isn’t talking about his feelings; he’s acting out in a harmful way. Not assertive.
7. Francis doesn’t let Vivian play his game because he’s mad at her.
✘
👉 This is passive-aggressive. Francis is punishing Vivian by withholding something (the game) instead of communicating his feelings. Not respectful or direct.
8. Carol says, “I need you to please stop calling me names behind my back.”
✔ ✓
👉 This is assertive! Carol clearly expresses her need and feeling in a respectful tone. She uses “I need” and “please,” which shows self-respect and respect for others.
9. Joann tells Brenda that she’s the “worst friend in the world!”
✘
👉 This is aggressive. It’s a harsh, judgmental statement that attacks Brenda’s character. It’s not respectful or constructive.
10. Paul pulls Eva to the side and asks her to be nicer to him.
✔ ✓
👉 This is assertive. Paul takes initiative to talk privately and asks for better treatment in a calm, respectful way.
11. Sally is mad at Asher, so she counts to 10 before expressing her feelings.
✔ ✓
👉 This shows emotional regulation and self-control. Counting helps her stay calm and speak assertively instead of reacting impulsively. The act of preparing to express herself respectfully makes this assertive.
12. Darnell says, “I’m tired of you picking on me. It hurts my feelings.”
✔ ✓
👉 This is assertive. Darnell uses an “I” statement to share his emotions clearly and honestly without attacking the other person.
13. Brett tells Josh, “I’m giving you 10 seconds to run before I hit you!”
✘
👉 This is aggressive. Threatening violence is not respectful or safe. Even if Brett is upset, threatening harm is not assertive.
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✔ Final Answers (with checks):
- ✓ Cody asks, “Wyatt, can you please stop throwing the ball at me?”
- Diane pushes Ryan because he called her a bad name.
- ✓ Cheyenne says, “No. I don’t like it when you do that. Please, stop.”
- Chris calls Bo a “chicken brain” because he’s mad at him.
- Ian is mad at Hector for making fun of him, but he doesn’t say anything to him.
- Tom is angry at his brother, so he sneaks in his room and breaks his toy.
- Francis doesn’t let Vivian play his game because he’s mad at her.
- ✓ Carol says, “I need you to please stop calling me names behind my back.”
- Joann tells Brenda that she’s the “worst friend in the world!”
- ✓ Paul pulls Eva to the side and asks her to be nicer to him.
- ✓ Sally is mad at Asher, so she counts to 10 before expressing her feelings.
- ✓ Darnell says, “I’m tired of you picking on me. It hurts my feelings.”
- Brett tells Josh, “I’m giving you 10 seconds to run before I hit you!”
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📝 Summary: How to Be Assertive
To be assertive:
- Use “I” statements (e.g., “I feel…”).
- Speak clearly and calmly.
- Respect others’ rights while standing up for yourself.
- Avoid yelling, hitting, or name-calling.
- Don’t stay silent when you’re hurt or upset.
This worksheet teaches kids to recognize healthy ways to communicate their feelings and set boundaries.
Let me know if you'd like a printable version or a classroom activity based on this!
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