- Cody asks, "Wyatt, can you please stop throwing the ball at me?" - Yes, this is assertive. Cody is politely asking Wyatt to stop, using "please" and a calm tone, which shows respect while standing up for himself.
- Diane pushes Ryan because he called her a bad name. - No, this is not assertive. Pushing is aggressive behavior and not a respectful way to communicate.
- Cheyenne says, "No. I don't like it when you do that. Please, stop." - Yes, this is assertive. Cheyenne clearly states her feelings and asks for the behavior to stop in a respectful way.
- Chris calls Bo a "chicken brain" because he's mad at him. - No, this is not assertive. Calling someone a name is aggressive and disrespectful.
- Ian is mad at Hector for making fun of him, but he doesn't say anything to him. - No, this is not assertive. Not speaking up is passive, and he is not standing up for himself.
- Tom is angry at his brother, so he sneaks in his room and breaks his toy. - No, this is not assertive. Breaking a toy is aggressive and destructive behavior.
- Francis doesn't let Vivian play his game because he's mad at her. - No, this is not assertive. Withholding a game is a passive-aggressive action and not a direct way to express feelings.
- Carol says, "I need you to please stop calling me names behind my back." - Yes, this is assertive. Carol is clearly stating her feelings and requesting a change in behavior respectfully.
- Joann tells Brenda that she's the "worst friend in the world!" - No, this is not assertive. This is an aggressive and hurtful statement, not a respectful way to communicate.
- Paul pulls Eva to the side and asks her to be nicer to him. - Yes, this is assertive. Paul is speaking privately and respectfully asking for a change in behavior.
- Sally is mad at Asher, so she counts to 10 before expressing her feelings. - Yes, this is assertive. Sally is managing her emotions and choosing a calm time to communicate, which is a healthy approach.
- Darnell says, "I'm tired of you picking on me. It hurts my feelings." - Yes, this is assertive. Darnell is expressing his feelings honestly and directly, using "I" statements.
- Brett tells Josh, "I'm giving you 10 seconds to run before I hit you!" - No, this is not assertive. Threatening physical harm is aggressive and dangerous.
Parent Tip: Review the logic above to help your child master the concept of effective communication worksheet adults.
