Being Assertive Worksheet - Free Printable

Task: Identify Examples of Assertive Communication

#### Instructions Recap:
- Assertive communication means standing up for yourself and sharing how you feel in a respectful manner.
- Place a checkmark next to the examples of assertive communication.
- Explain why each example is or isn't a good example of someone being assertive.

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Analysis of Each Example:

1. Cody asks, “Wyatt, can you please stop throwing the ball at me?”
- Checkmark: ☑
- Reason: Cody is calmly and respectfully asking Wyatt to stop an unwanted behavior. This is a clear and direct way to express his feelings without aggression or passivity.

2. Diane pushes Ryan because he called her a bad name.
- Checkmark: ✘
- Reason: Pushing Ryan is a physical and aggressive response. Assertive communication involves expressing feelings and setting boundaries verbally, not through physical actions.

3. Cheyenne says, “No. I don’t like it when you do that. Please, stop.”
- Checkmark: ☑
- Reason: Cheyenne is clearly and respectfully expressing her dislike of the behavior and asking the person to stop. This is a direct and assertive approach.

4. Chris calls Bo a “chicken brain” because he’s mad at him.
- Checkmark: ✘
- Reason: Calling someone a name is disrespectful and aggressive. Assertive communication avoids name-calling and focuses on expressing feelings constructively.

5. Ian is mad at Hector for making fun of him, but he doesn’t say anything to him.
- Checkmark: ✘
- Reason: Ian's silence indicates passive behavior. Assertive communication requires speaking up about one's feelings and setting boundaries, which Ian is not doing.

6. Tom is angry at his brother, so he sneaks in his room and breaks his toy.
- Checkmark: ✘
- Reason: Breaking his brother's toy is an aggressive and destructive action. Assertive communication involves expressing anger in a calm and respectful way, not through vandalism.

7. Francis doesn’t let Vivian play his game because he’s mad at her.
- Checkmark: ✘
- Reason: Excluding Vivian from playing is a passive-aggressive behavior. Assertive communication would involve talking to Vivian about his feelings instead of punishing her silently.

8. Carol says, “I need you to please stop calling me names behind my back.”
- Checkmark: ☑
- Reason: Carol is directly and respectfully addressing the issue of name-calling. She is expressing her feelings and setting a boundary, which is a hallmark of assertive communication.

9. Joann tells Brenda that she’s the “worst friend in the world!”
- Checkmark: ✘
- Reason: Labeling Brenda as the "worst friend" is aggressive and disrespectful. Assertive communication focuses on expressing feelings without attacking the other person.

10. Paul pulls Eva to the side and asks her to be nicer to him.
- Checkmark: ☑
- Reason: Paul is calmly and privately asking Eva to change her behavior. This is a respectful and assertive way to address the issue.

11. Sally is mad at Asher, so she counts to 10 before expressing her feelings.
- Checkmark: ☑
- Reason: Counting to 10 helps Sally calm down and express her feelings rationally. This is a constructive and assertive approach to managing emotions.

12. Darnell says, “I’m tired of you picking on me. It hurts my feelings.”
- Checkmark: ☑
- Reason: Darnell is clearly expressing his feelings and setting a boundary. This is a direct and respectful way to communicate, which aligns with assertive communication.

13. Brett tells Josh, “I’m giving you 10 seconds to run before I hit you!”
- Checkmark: ✘
- Reason: Threatening to hit Josh is aggressive and disrespectful. Assertive communication involves expressing feelings and setting boundaries without resorting to threats or violence.

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Final Answer:

- Assertive Examples (✓):
1. Cody asks, “Wyatt, can you please stop throwing the ball at me?”
3. Cheyenne says, “No. I don’t like it when you do that. Please, stop.”
8. Carol says, “I need you to please stop calling me names behind my back.”
10. Paul pulls Eva to the side and asks her to be nicer to him.
11. Sally is mad at Asher, so she counts to 10 before expressing her feelings.
12. Darnell says, “I’m tired of you picking on me. It hurts my feelings.”

- Non-Assertive Examples (✗):
2. Diane pushes Ryan because he called her a bad name.
4. Chris calls Bo a “chicken brain” because he’s mad at him.
5. Ian is mad at Hector for making fun of him, but he doesn’t say anything to him.
6. Tom is angry at his brother, so he sneaks in his room and breaks his toy.
7. Francis doesn’t let Vivian play his game because he’s mad at her.
9. Joann tells Brenda that she’s the “worst friend in the world!”
13. Brett tells Josh, “I’m giving you 10 seconds to run before I hit you!”

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Final Answer Box:

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\begin{aligned}
&\text{Assertive:} \quad 1, 3, 8, 10, 11, 12 \\
&\text{Non-Assertive:} \quad 2, 4, 5, 6, 7, 9, 13
\end{aligned}
}