DEARMAN Assertive Communication Worksheet Editable / Fillable PDF ... - Free Printable

This image is a humorous cartoon illustrating three different communication styles—Passive, Passive-Aggressive, and Aggressive—in response to criticism. The scenario starts with someone saying:
> *"That was okay, but it might have been better if you had..."*

Then, three characters respond in distinct ways, each representing a different communication style.

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🔹 1. PASSIVE Response

- Character: A meek-looking person with drooping eyes.
- Response: *"I'm so sorry – you're right, it's all my fault. I'm so stupid and useless."*
- Explanation:
This is passive communication. The person avoids confrontation, takes full blame (even when not entirely deserved), and undermines their own self-worth. They don’t express their own feelings or needs and may feel resentful internally. While they appear agreeable, this style can lead to low self-esteem and unmet needs.

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🔹 2. PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE Response

- Character: A smug-looking face with a smirk and closed eyes.
- Response: *"Sorry." (Thinks: "Huh. It's not my fault! I'll get you back later")*
- Explanation:
This is passive-aggressive communication. The person appears polite on the surface ("Sorry"), but internally resents the feedback and plans retaliation. They avoid direct confrontation but express hostility indirectly—through sarcasm, procrastination, or subtle sabotage. This creates tension and misunderstandings because the true feelings are hidden.

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🔹 3. AGGRESSIVE Response

- Character: An angry, shouting figure with wide eyes and clenched teeth.
- Response: *"What?! You can talk! How dare you!"*
- Explanation:
This is aggressive communication. The person attacks the other person’s character instead of addressing the issue. They use intimidation, anger, or dominance to shut down conversation. While they may stand up for themselves, they do so in a way that disrespects others, damages relationships, and prevents constructive dialogue.

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✔ Ideal Communication Style (Not Shown)

While the cartoon doesn’t show it, the assertive communication style would be the healthiest alternative:
> *"Thanks for your feedback. I appreciate your input. I’ll work on improving that aspect."*

This style is respectful, honest, and clear—it expresses thoughts and feelings without attacking or undermining others.

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🎯 Summary

| Style | Characteristics | Outcome |
|--------------------|------------------------------------------------|------------------------------------------|
| Passive | Avoids conflict, over-apologizes, blames self | Resentment, low self-esteem |
| Passive-Aggressive | Surface politeness, hidden hostility | Miscommunication, delayed conflict |
| Aggressive | Hostile, attacks others, dominates | Damaged relationships, no resolution |

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💡 Takeaway:
The cartoon humorously highlights how how we respond to feedback matters just as much as the feedback itself. Healthy communication balances honesty with respect—something assertiveness provides, which is missing from all three responses shown.