1. Both partners can use this template to express how they feel based on the above scenario. (feel [insert emotion] when [enter scenario])
2. After one partner shares, the other partner should validate and use active listening skills. Use: "I hear you saying that you feel [insert emotion] when [insert scenario through your partner’s lens]."
3. Both partners should again validate each other and make sure they understand each other before moving on to the next step. (See step 2.)
4. Once both are on the same page, you can take turns sharing if you felt triggered by anything your partner said, or why the scenario felt activating. Use: “Saying or doing [insert word or behavior that felt activating] makes me feel [insert emotion] because of [insert previous experience].”
5. Both partners should again validate each other and make sure they understand each other before moving on to the next step. (See step 2.)
6. Once everyone is on the same page, join together to come up with solutions that fit both of your needs going forward.
7. Once you’ve come to a resolution, think about a way you two can reconnect. This can be a hug, holding hands, kissing, or simply expressing your gratitude for the other person.
Parent Tip: Review the logic above to help your child master the concept of free printable couples therapy worksheets.
