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Assertive communication means:
- Standing up for yourself.
- Expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly and respectfully.
- Not being aggressive (which involves attacking or hurting others) or passive (which means not speaking up at all).
We need to check the examples that show assertive behavior, and explain why each one is or isn’t a good example of being assertive.
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1. Cody asks, “Wyatt, can you please stop throwing the ball at me?”
- ✔ Check this one.
- Why? Cody is expressing his discomfort directly and respectfully. He uses "please" and states what he wants without yelling or aggression. This is assertive.
2. Diane pushes Ryan because he called her a bad name.
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? Pushing is physical aggression. Even if she’s upset, using force is not assertive—it’s aggressive.
3. Cheyenne says, “No. I don’t like it when you do that. Please, stop.”
- ✔ Check this one.
- Why? She clearly expresses her feelings (“I don’t like it”) and makes a respectful request. This is a clear example of assertiveness.
4. Chris calls Bo a “chicken brain” because he’s mad at him.
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? Calling someone a name is aggressive and disrespectful. It attacks the person, not the behavior. Not assertive.
5. Ian is mad at Hector for making fun of him, but he doesn’t say anything to him.
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? Not speaking up is passive. Ian is bottling up his feelings instead of communicating them. This is not assertive.
6. Tom is angry at his brother, so he sneaks in his room and breaks his toy.
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? Destroying property is destructive and aggressive. Tom isn’t communicating his feelings—he’s acting out. Not assertive.
7. Francis doesn’t let Vivian play his game because he’s mad at her.
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? This is punitive and controlling. Francis is using power over Vivian, which is not respectful or assertive. It’s more passive-aggressive.
8. Carol says, “I need you to please stop calling me names behind my back.”
- ✔ Check this one.
- Why? Carol clearly expresses how she feels and what she wants, using polite language. This is assertive.
9. Joann tells Brenda that she’s the “worst friend in the world!”
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? This is harsh and judgmental. It attacks Brenda’s character rather than expressing feelings. It’s aggressive, not assertive.
10. Paul pulls Eva to the side and asks her to be nicer to him.
- ✔ Check this one.
- Why? Paul is addressing the issue privately and respectfully. He’s asking for better treatment without yelling or blaming. This is assertive.
11. Sally is mad at Asher, so she counts to 10 before expressing her feelings.
- ✔ Check this one.
- Why? Taking time to calm down before speaking shows self-control. Then, she likely expresses herself calmly and clearly—this is part of healthy assertiveness.
12. Darnell says, “I’m tired of you picking on me. It hurts my feelings.”
- ✔ Check this one.
- Why? Darnell shares how the behavior affects him emotionally. He’s honest and respectful. This is classic assertive communication.
13. Brett tells Josh, “I’m giving you 10 seconds to run before I hit you!”
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? Threatening violence is aggressive and dangerous. This is intimidation, not assertiveness.
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Put a checkmark (✔️) next to:
- Cody asks, “Wyatt, can you please stop throwing the ball at me?”
- Cheyenne says, “No. I don’t like it when you do that. Please, stop.”
- Carol says, “I need you to please stop calling me names behind my back.”
- Paul pulls Eva to the side and asks her to be nicer to him.
- Sally is mad at Asher, so she counts to 10 before expressing her feelings.
- Darnell says, “I’m tired of you picking on me. It hurts my feelings.”
> ✔ Total of 6 assertive examples
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| Example | Is it Assertive? | Why? |
|--------|------------------|------|
| Cody | ✔ Yes | Calm, direct, respectful request |
| Diane | ✘ No | Physical aggression |
| Cheyenne | ✔ Yes | Clear, respectful expression of feelings |
| Chris | ✘ No | Name-calling = aggression |
| Ian | ✘ No | Passive – not speaking up |
| Tom | ✘ No | Aggressive destruction |
| Francis | ✘ No | Punitive control |
| Carol | ✔ Yes | Direct, polite, clear message |
| Joann | ✘ No | Harsh, personal attack |
| Paul | ✔ Yes | Private, respectful request |
| Sally | ✔ Yes | Uses self-control before speaking |
| Darnell | ✔ Yes | Expresses emotional impact clearly |
| Brett | ✘ No | Threat of violence |
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Assertive communication = Respectful + Honest + Calm + Clear.
It’s about standing up for yourself without hurting others.
Let me know if you'd like a printable version or a classroom handout!
🔍 What is Assertive Communication?
Assertive communication means:
- Standing up for yourself.
- Expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly and respectfully.
- Not being aggressive (which involves attacking or hurting others) or passive (which means not speaking up at all).
We need to check the examples that show assertive behavior, and explain why each one is or isn’t a good example of being assertive.
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✔ Let’s go through each example:
1. Cody asks, “Wyatt, can you please stop throwing the ball at me?”
- ✔ Check this one.
- Why? Cody is expressing his discomfort directly and respectfully. He uses "please" and states what he wants without yelling or aggression. This is assertive.
2. Diane pushes Ryan because he called her a bad name.
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? Pushing is physical aggression. Even if she’s upset, using force is not assertive—it’s aggressive.
3. Cheyenne says, “No. I don’t like it when you do that. Please, stop.”
- ✔ Check this one.
- Why? She clearly expresses her feelings (“I don’t like it”) and makes a respectful request. This is a clear example of assertiveness.
4. Chris calls Bo a “chicken brain” because he’s mad at him.
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? Calling someone a name is aggressive and disrespectful. It attacks the person, not the behavior. Not assertive.
5. Ian is mad at Hector for making fun of him, but he doesn’t say anything to him.
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? Not speaking up is passive. Ian is bottling up his feelings instead of communicating them. This is not assertive.
6. Tom is angry at his brother, so he sneaks in his room and breaks his toy.
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? Destroying property is destructive and aggressive. Tom isn’t communicating his feelings—he’s acting out. Not assertive.
7. Francis doesn’t let Vivian play his game because he’s mad at her.
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? This is punitive and controlling. Francis is using power over Vivian, which is not respectful or assertive. It’s more passive-aggressive.
8. Carol says, “I need you to please stop calling me names behind my back.”
- ✔ Check this one.
- Why? Carol clearly expresses how she feels and what she wants, using polite language. This is assertive.
9. Joann tells Brenda that she’s the “worst friend in the world!”
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? This is harsh and judgmental. It attacks Brenda’s character rather than expressing feelings. It’s aggressive, not assertive.
10. Paul pulls Eva to the side and asks her to be nicer to him.
- ✔ Check this one.
- Why? Paul is addressing the issue privately and respectfully. He’s asking for better treatment without yelling or blaming. This is assertive.
11. Sally is mad at Asher, so she counts to 10 before expressing her feelings.
- ✔ Check this one.
- Why? Taking time to calm down before speaking shows self-control. Then, she likely expresses herself calmly and clearly—this is part of healthy assertiveness.
12. Darnell says, “I’m tired of you picking on me. It hurts my feelings.”
- ✔ Check this one.
- Why? Darnell shares how the behavior affects him emotionally. He’s honest and respectful. This is classic assertive communication.
13. Brett tells Josh, “I’m giving you 10 seconds to run before I hit you!”
- ✘ Do NOT check.
- Why? Threatening violence is aggressive and dangerous. This is intimidation, not assertiveness.
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✔ Final Answer: Check these examples
Put a checkmark (✔️) next to:
- Cody asks, “Wyatt, can you please stop throwing the ball at me?”
- Cheyenne says, “No. I don’t like it when you do that. Please, stop.”
- Carol says, “I need you to please stop calling me names behind my back.”
- Paul pulls Eva to the side and asks her to be nicer to him.
- Sally is mad at Asher, so she counts to 10 before expressing her feelings.
- Darnell says, “I’m tired of you picking on me. It hurts my feelings.”
> ✔ Total of 6 assertive examples
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📝 Summary Explanation
| Example | Is it Assertive? | Why? |
|--------|------------------|------|
| Cody | ✔ Yes | Calm, direct, respectful request |
| Diane | ✘ No | Physical aggression |
| Cheyenne | ✔ Yes | Clear, respectful expression of feelings |
| Chris | ✘ No | Name-calling = aggression |
| Ian | ✘ No | Passive – not speaking up |
| Tom | ✘ No | Aggressive destruction |
| Francis | ✘ No | Punitive control |
| Carol | ✔ Yes | Direct, polite, clear message |
| Joann | ✘ No | Harsh, personal attack |
| Paul | ✔ Yes | Private, respectful request |
| Sally | ✔ Yes | Uses self-control before speaking |
| Darnell | ✔ Yes | Expresses emotional impact clearly |
| Brett | ✘ No | Threat of violence |
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💡 Key Takeaway:
Assertive communication = Respectful + Honest + Calm + Clear.
It’s about standing up for yourself without hurting others.
Let me know if you'd like a printable version or a classroom handout!
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