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To solve this problem, we need to look at the checklist titled "TO RESOLVE CONFLICTS, I can..." and identify which strategies are marked as incorrect.

Step 1: Understand the Goal
The goal is to find positive ways to handle arguments or disagreements (conflicts). The worksheet lists many options. Some have a checkmark box next to them, and some have a big red "X" over the box. A red "X" means that strategy is not a good way to resolve a conflict.

Step 2: Scan for the Red "X" Marks
Let's look through the list to see which items have a red "X":

1. Top Left: "Get Calm First" has a red X. This is surprising because usually getting calm is good, but in this specific worksheet key, it is marked with an X. *Wait, let me look closer.* Actually, looking at the logic of conflict resolution, "Get Calm First" is almost always a correct step. Let me re-examine the image carefully.
* Ah, I see. The red X is drawn over the checkbox for "Get Calm First".
* There is another red X over "Do Something Else".
* There is a third red X over "Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes".

*Self-Correction/Refinement:* In many educational contexts, "Get Calm First," "Talk It Out," and "Empathy (Shoes)" are considered *correct* steps. Why would they be crossed out?
Let's look at the other items.
- "Find a Win-Win Solution" (Empty box) -> Good strategy.
- "Ignore What's Annoying Me" (Empty box) -> Sometimes valid, but often avoidance isn't resolution.
- "Talk It Out and Use I-Messages" (Empty box) -> Very good strategy.
- "Listen to the Other Person" (Empty box) -> Very good strategy.
- "Share or Take Turns" (Empty box) -> Good strategy.
- "Say Words That Mean NO" (Empty box) -> Good boundary setting.
- "Ask for Help" (Empty box) -> Good strategy.
- "Apologize" (Empty box) -> Good strategy.
- "Do Rock-Paper-Scissors or Flip a Coin" (Empty box) -> Good for minor disputes.

Let's re-read the visual cues. The red X is clearly marking specific items. Usually, in these types of worksheets, the student is asked to circle or check the *good* behaviors. However, here, the X might indicate things that are *incorrect* answers if the question was "Which of these are BAD ways to resolve conflict?" OR, perhaps the X indicates mistakes made by a student who filled it out incorrectly?

Actually, looking at standard social-emotional learning (SEL) curricula:
- Get Calm First: This is a POSITIVE step.
- Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes: This is a POSITIVE step (empathy).
- Do Something Else: This is often a NEGATIVE step (avoidance/distraction without resolving).

Wait, let's look at the prompt again. The user just said "Solve the problem accurately." They didn't ask a specific question like "Which ones are wrong?" or "Which ones are right?".

If this is a "check all that apply" worksheet for *positive* conflict resolution, the items with the Red X are likely the ones that were *incorrectly* identified or are being highlighted as "Don't do this" vs "Do this".

However, there is a contradiction in standard SEL advice:
- "Get Calm First" is universally taught as Step 1. Marking it with an X seems wrong pedagogically unless the context is "Things you CANNOT do while angry" (but the title is "I can...").
- "Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes" is universally taught as Empathy. Marking it with an X seems wrong.
- "Do Something Else" is usually avoidance. Marking it with an X makes sense if we are listing *active* resolution strategies.

Let's reconsider the image source: "WholeHearted School Counseling".
Perhaps the Red X indicates options that are NOT effective conflict resolution strategies *in the moment* or are misconceptions?

Actually, let's look at the visual pattern.
Items with Empty Boxes:
1. Find a Win-Win Solution
2. Talk It Out and Use I-Messages
3. Listen to the Other Person
4. Share or Take Turns
5. Say Words That Mean "NO"
6. Ask for Help
7. Apologize
8. Do Rock-Paper-Scissors or Flip a Coin
9. Ignore What's Annoying Me

Items with Red X:
1. Get Calm First
2. Do Something Else
3. Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes

This is very strange. "Get Calm First" and "Empathy" are core pillars of conflict resolution. "Do Something Else" is distraction.

Is it possible the Red X means "This has already been done" or "This is the answer"? No, usually X means wrong.

Let's look at the illustrations.
- Next to "Get Calm First", the boy goes from angry to calm. That is a positive depiction.
- Next to "Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes", the girl is thinking about shoes. That is a positive depiction of empathy.
- Next to "Do Something Else", kids are playing basketball/soccer separately. That depicts avoidance.

Hypothesis: The worksheet might be asking students to identify Active Resolution Strategies.
- "Get Calm First" is a *preparation* step, not the resolution itself?
- "Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes" is an *internal* thought process, not an action?
- "Do Something Else" is avoidance.

However, without a specific question from the user (e.g., "Circle the bad strategies"), "Solving the problem" implies identifying the intended correct answers for a typical student assignment.

In almost every school counseling context, the Positive/Correct strategies for resolving conflict are:
1. Get Calm First
2. Talk It Out / I-Messages
3. Listen
4. Win-Win
5. Empathy (Shoes)
6. Apologize
7. Ask for Help
8. Share/Take Turns

The strategies that are generally considered Negative/Incorrect (or less effective) are:
1. Ignore What's Annoying Me (Avoidance)
2. Do Something Else (Distraction/Avoidance)
3. Saying "No" aggressively (though setting boundaries is good, just saying "No" isn't resolution).

Crucial Observation: The Red X marks are on "Get Calm First", "Do Something Else", and "Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes".

If the student is supposed to Check the boxes for good ideas, the person who marked this paper made mistakes. They put Xs on two very good ideas ("Get Calm" and "Empathy") and one bad idea ("Do Something Else").

Alternatively, maybe the task is: "Cross out the things that DON'T help resolve the conflict directly."
- "Do Something Else" definitely doesn't resolve it.
- But "Get Calm First" DOES help.
- And "Empathy" DOES help.

Let's look at the provided solution format. I need to provide a final answer. Since there is no explicit question text in the prompt, I must infer the most likely educational objective. The objective of such a poster is to teach Effective Conflict Resolution Skills.

Therefore, the "Solution" is to identify which options are the recommended actions. The Red Xs in the image appear to be errors made by a student or grader, OR they indicate options that are *passive* rather than *active*. But "Get Calm" is active self-regulation.

Let's assume the question is: "Which of these are GOOD ways to resolve conflicts?"

The good ways are:
- Get Calm First (Despite the X, this is correct in real life)
- Find a Win-Win Solution
- Talk It Out and Use I-Messages
- Listen to the Other Person
- Share or Take Turns
- Say Words That Mean "NO" (Assertiveness)
- Ask for Help
- Apologize
- Do Rock-Paper-Scissors or Flip a Coin (Fairness)

The bad/less helpful ways are:
- Ignore What's Annoying Me (Usually temporary)
- Do Something Else (Avoidance)
- Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes (This is actually GOOD, so the X is weird).

Alternative Interpretation:
Maybe the Red X indicates the answers to a specific quiz where the question was "Which of these are NOT active negotiation tactics?"

However, the most helpful response for a student is to clarify which behaviors are constructive.

Let's look at the items with the Red X again.
1. Get Calm First
2. Do Something Else
3. Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes

Let's look at the items with Empty Boxes.
1. Find a Win-Win Solution
2. Talk It Out...
3. Listen...
4. Share...
5. Say Words That Mean NO
6. Ask for Help
7. Apologize
8. Do Rock-Paper-Scissors...
9. Ignore What's Annoying Me

If I assume the image shows a completed answer key where X means "Wrong/Don't Do" and Check means "Right/Do":
Then the key suggests:
- DON'T Get Calm First (This is bad advice).
- DON'T Put yourself in their shoes (This is bad advice).
- DO Ignore what's annoying me (This is debatable advice).

This interpretation leads to pedagogically unsound conclusions. "WholeHearted School Counseling" is a reputable source. It is highly unlikely they teach that you should *not* get calm and *not* have empathy.

Most Likely Scenario: The image shows a student's incorrect attempt, or the X marks are simply highlighting specific items for discussion, or perhaps the X means "This is a 'Stop' sign" type of reminder? No, it's over the checkbox.

Actually, looking at similar resources online from WholeHearted School Counseling: This is often used as a sorting activity. Students might cut these out and sort them into "Helpful" and "Not Helpful".

If I must "solve" it, I should provide the correct classification of these strategies based on standard educational standards for Social Emotional Learning (SEL).

Correct Classification:

Helpful Strategies (Do These):
1. Get Calm First
2. Find a Win-Win Solution
3. Talk It Out and Use I-Messages
4. Listen to the Other Person
5. Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes (Empathy)
6. Share or Take Turns
7. Say Words That Mean "NO" (Assertive boundaries)
8. Ask for Help
9. Apologize
10. Do Rock-Paper-Scissors or Flip a Coin (For simple disputes)

Unhelpful/Less Effective Strategies (Avoid These):
1. Ignore What's Annoying Me (This is avoidance, not resolution)
2. Do Something Else (This is distraction/avoidance)

Conclusion: The markings in the image (the Red Xs) are partially incorrect according to standard SEL principles. Specifically, marking "Get Calm First" and "Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes" as wrong is incorrect. Marking "Do Something Else" as wrong is correct.

Since the user asks me to "Solve the problem", and the problem is implicitly "Identify the correct conflict resolution strategies", I will list the strategies that are widely accepted as correct.

Final Answer Formulation:
I will list the positive actions one can take to resolve conflicts. I will note that while the image has Xs on some items, standard advice includes them as positive steps.

Wait, let's look really closely at the "Ignore What's Annoying Me" box. It is unchecked.
Let's look at "Do Something Else". It has an X.

If the task is simply to read the sheet, maybe the user wants to know what the sheet says? No, "Solve the problem" implies an active task.

Let's assume the question is: "Select the best strategies for resolving conflicts."

The best strategies are:
1. Get Calm First
2. Find a Win-Win Solution
3. Talk It Out and Use I-Messages
4. Listen to the Other Person
5. Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes
6. Share or Take Turns
7. Apologize
8. Ask for Help

(Rock-Paper-Scissors is okay for small things. Saying "No" is okay for boundaries. Ignoring and Doing Something Else are avoidance.)

I will provide the list of Positive/Recommended Actions.

Final Answer:
Based on standard social-emotional learning guidelines for resolving conflicts, here are the correct and helpful strategies from the list:

Recommended Actions (Good Ways to Resolve Conflict):
* Get Calm First: Taking deep breaths or counting helps you think clearly. (Note: The image marks this with an X, but it is widely considered a crucial first step).
* Find a Win-Win Solution: Look for an answer that makes both people happy.
* Talk It Out and Use I-Messages: Say how you feel using sentences like "I feel hurt when..." instead of blaming.
* Listen to the Other Person: Hear their side of the story.
* Put Myself in the Other Person's Shoes: Try to understand how they feel. (Note: The image marks this with an X, but empathy is a key part of resolution).
* Share or Take Turns: Compromise on using toys or space.
* Say Words That Mean "NO": Set clear, kind boundaries if someone is hurting you.
* Ask for Help: Get a teacher or adult involved if you can't solve it alone.
* Apologize: Say sorry if you made a mistake.
* Do Rock-Paper-Scissors or Flip a Coin: Use a fair game to decide simple disagreements.

Actions to Avoid (Not Helpful for Resolution):
* Ignore What's Annoying Me: This usually doesn't fix the problem; it just hides it.
* Do Something Else: Walking away or distracting yourself avoids the conflict instead of resolving it. (The image correctly marks this with an X).