The Assertiveness Quiz presents seven scenarios, each with three response options. The labels on the left (revenge, name calling, hurtful words, accusing, angry) appear to be distractors or categories that don't match all scenarios perfectly. Let me work through each scenario to identify the most assertive response.
Scenario 1: Boyfriend/girlfriend is mad about unanswered calls; mom never gave you the messages.
- a. Don't say anything - passive
- b. Confront mom and ask if boyfriend/girlfriend called -
assertive
- c. Get even by not giving mom next phone message - revenge/passive-aggressive
Scenario 2: Teacher gives "C" but you believe it's "B+" work.
- a. Go home and do nothing - passive
- b. Ask teacher to explain the grade -
assertive
- c. Rip paper up and insult teacher - aggressive/name calling
Scenario 3: Friend says something hurtful.
- a. Say nothing and hope it doesn't happen again - passive
- b. Tell your friend what they said hurt your feelings -
assertive
- c. Say something hurtful back - revenge/aggressive
Scenario 4: Friend picks up lunch but doesn't give change (~$8).
- a. Assume there was no change - passive
- b. Ask if there was any change -
assertive
- c. Accuse friend of trying to rip you off - accusing/aggressive
Scenario 5: Classmate asks to copy homework; you're afraid of getting an "F."
- a. Let them copy even though uncomfortable - passive
- b. Tell them you'd rather not -
assertive
- c. Call them a cheater - name calling/aggressive
Scenario 6: Friend asks for ride from mechanics; afraid you'll miss a test.
- a. Do it anyhow - passive
- b. Ask if you can do it after school -
assertive
- c. Agree but purposefully forget - revenge/passive-aggressive
Scenario 7: Parents say they're transferring money but it never arrives.
- a. Don't say anything and hope it shows up - passive
- b. Confront them and express concern the transaction didn't go through -
assertive
- c. Get mad and yell - angry/aggressive
Let me verify each answer:
1.
b - Asking mom directly is assertive communication
2.
b - Asking teacher for explanation is appropriate assertiveness
3.
b - Expressing how their words made you feel is classic assertiveness
4.
b - Simply asking about the change is direct and non-accusatory
5.
b - Politely declining without insulting is assertive
6.
b - Offering an alternative time shows respect for both parties
7.
b - Expressing concern calmly is assertive; yelling is aggressive
All answers check out as the assertive (middle ground between passive and aggressive) responses.
Final Answer:
1. b
2. b
3. b
4. b
5. b
6. b
7. b
Parent Tip: Review the logic above to help your child master the concept of printable assertiveness quiz.
